How To Know If You Need An Emotional Release

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When you store up feelings like a squirrel hoarding nuts for the winter, your body will find ways to let you know you need an emotional release. Emotions are just like anything else you put into your body and require a special amount of TLC to keep you healthy. If you discovered you were deficient in vitamin C, you’d start downing supplements the next day to boost your levels. And imagine your dentist drops the bomb that you have a buttload of plaque on your fangs. GASP! You’d be flossing and scrapping your grille will such intensity that you’d sprain your wrist.

The things is, no blood test or annual cleaning is going to alert you to an overgrowth of unexpressed and built up emotional energy. Residual feelings happen to everyone — and everyone has the power to clear out the clutter and feel incredible in both body and mind! All you need are a few tools to help you on your way.

1. Tune Into Your Body

Learning to recognize when you need to let go of some strong feelings is the first step in this process. Here are a few of the common signs you body sends when you need an emotional release,

  • Stress

  • Anxiety

  • Lack of sleep

  • Tension anywhere in the body

  • Feeling angry, sad, or frustrated for “no reason”

  • General unhappiness

  • Feeling floaty, ungrounded, or disconnected

  • The urge to escape life through drugs, alcohol, or other avenues

  • Reoccurring dreams

2. Be Willing

Once you acknowledge that you have some emotions to look at, you need to be willing to do the damn thing! One reason you may be in dire need of a release is because you’ve avoided the discomfort you fear comes with naming, expressing, and releasing your emotions. You’ve buried them deep deep down and put some denial on top. But unearthing these feelings so they can be properly processed (just like your body processes calories into energy) will be to your benefit.

3. Name It

Ask yourself, “What am I feeling?” about 10 times to get to the root of the emotion. When you hit the bullseye, you’ll know. Sometimes just putting a name tag on your feeling does wonders and kicks the releasing process into motion.

4. Be Gentle With Yourself

If you’ve been holding on to a certain emotion for a long time, it can feel frightening to let it go. As odd as that sounds, even feelings that don’t serve you can become the devil you know — and keeping your resentment or abandonment or grief close to you provides a false sense of comfort that you may have come to rely on. But who would you be without that grief? Without that anger? Probably much lighter, happier, and freer. So go gentle on yourself if this process feels hard.

5. Let It Go

Now that you’ve called out your feeling and given it a name, it’s time for that juicy emotional release. There are so many healthy ways to let go of the toxic residue of emotional overgrowth. Try one (or three) that feel right for you.

  • Cry

  • Say, “I release [insert name of emotion] from my body” over and over

  • Write a farewell letter to your feelings

  • Do a session with an energy worker (Hello! Call me.)

  • When you shower, imagine the emotion being washed clean from your body

  • Meditate and visualize the emotion leaving your body

  • Blow up a balloon and imagine you’re filling it with that emotion, then pop it to release

  • Jump and stomp the ground to get that feeling out of your system

  • Punch a pillow or punching bag as you say the name of the emotion

You can get creative with how you want to release an emotion. The important thing is to at least start to purge some of this crusty old feeling from your system and stick with it if you need more time to completely cleanse the whole thing out. Whole self-care means keeping your mind, body, spirit, and personal energy strong and emotional releases create a massive shift in inner peace, joy, and gratitude.